"What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make" - Jane Goodall
Part of living with any mental health issue is learning and growing from it. Not every decision is life or death but we often will have to decide what is the best way to address the issue at hand.
Personal Growth to me is, to be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. Learning from your past and using each and every high and low as an opportunity to grow.
Abraham Maslow an American psychologist once said "One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again."
Whilst I don't entirely agree that absolutely every obstacle needs to be tackled head-on time and time again, I do believe that we are the facilitators of our own lives. We are in control.
When it comes to me, I am not someone who constantly grows forward. I do often find myself crawling back to safety. Which I think is okay but, something I am working on is learning when to crawl back and when to push forward. It isn't easy to constantly push forward further so when we are dealing with the mental drainage and fatigue caused by depression, anxiety, etc.
I do believe the more you do something the easier it becomes. I've learned this being open in wearing my scarves. The more I did it the more natural it felt. The issue is when you stop tackling whatever obstacle it maybe you often find yourself feeling back at square one. Even writing this little paragraph causes me anxiety. It isn't easy. I'm sure with my situation the whole pandemic will push my progress back a lot. As uncomfortable as it will be I will need to push and grow through whatever it is I will feel.
The same can be said for any obstacle. Repetition is key. We certainly don't improve by not doing. The more we do the better we get.
We all love comfort but sometimes hopping out of our comfort zone can be our best chance to grow.
I want to share a few tips or insights that I have regarding personal growth. Everyone is different, what works for me may not work for you and vice versa.
Go at Your Own Pace
Be the Best You Can Be
Do what makes You Happy
Create Your Own Path
Be Willing to Learn
Cut the Toxicity
Accept Failures will Come
Find a Routine that Works for You
Take-on a new Hobby
These are obviously vague guidelines, to grow oneself.
Like I said there are no right or wrong answers, find what works for you. Read, Listen, Learn. I'm still figuring it out, so can you.
- Thinking Mans Thoughts
I've created a Patreon for anyone who wants to help and support this journey I'm on. This isn’t about money nor will it ever be. I plan to blog as long as I have thoughts running through my head and stories to tell, but I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t help me in my situation. All support is appreciated but not mandatory. It's very awkward 'asking' for money especially when I don’t want it to come across like that is my intention.
If you've read all of that and still choose to support me, I will forever appreciate it.